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Myths and Facts about domestic abuse


Domestic Abuse Myths & Facts

Myth: Men are abused as much as women.

Fact: Some women are abusers. most of the services help men as well as women. But approximately 70% of victims are women.

Myth: Domestic abuse only happens in working class families.

Fact: Abuse happens in all walks of life. Abusers are just as likely to be lawyers or accountants as they are cleaners or unemployed.

Myth: 'She must provoke it/ deserve it/ enjoy the attention'

Fact: No one deserves to be beaten or abused. Victims often blame themselves because their abuser has constantly blamed them for provoking the abuse. There is no justification for violence or abuse.

Myth: 'It's the alcohol/drugs' or 'mental illness'

Fact: Choosing to abuse someone is not a mental illness - why doesn't the person also abuse their colleagues and friends? Similarly, abusers who blame drink or drugs are using them as a way to deny responsibility. Both may be a trigger for an attack, but they are not a cause.

Myth: 'My kids don't know about it' or 'If I tell someone the kids will be taken'

Fact: Domestic abuse has a huge impact on children and young people. 90% of domestic abuse cases involve a child in some way.

Myth: 'it can't be that bad or she'd leave'

Fact: People stay in violent relationships out of fear or love. Some think that they couldn't cope without the abusive partner or that the kids will be taken away.

Domestic Abuse Facts

1. One incident of Domestic Violence is reported to the police every 60 seconds.

2. 2 women a week are killed by their male partner or ex-partner.

3. At least 750,000 children a year witness domestic violence.

4. In 75% to 90% of incidents of domestic violence, children are in the same or the next room.

5. 70% of children living in UK refuges have been abused by their father.

6. 70% of incidents of domestic violence result in injury, (compared with 50% of incidents of acquaintance violence, 48% of stranger violence and 29% of mugging.)

7. 30% of domestic violence starts in pregnancy.

8. Between 4 and 9 women in every 100 are abused during their pregnancies and/or after the birth.

9. Within the six weeks following birth, 11 new mothers were known to have been murdered by their male partners during 2000-02, and 14% of all the women who died during or immediately after pregnancy (43 women) had reported domestic violence to a health professional during the pregnancy.

10. 54% of UK rapes are committed by a woman’s current or former partner.

11. A woman is beaten on average 35 times before she seeks help.